When two parents divorce or separate, the parents divorce each other – the children will never, and can never divorce either parent. The original nuclear family structure (parents and children in one home), then moves into two homes. The emotional and physical well-being of each member of the family system impacts on the total family system. It is therefore important to assist every member of the family. Post divorce or separation, the system of co-parenting is then implemented to support the children (and parents). Children need consistency and stability while moving between the two homes. Divorce is not a war, it is a correction.
As hard as it is, parents should separate their emotions and feelings towards the other parent from being a good co-parent. Both parents should focus only on the best interest of their children and be Cooperating Coparents. Should one or both parents not be willing or able to cooperate, their children are caught up in the damaging Conflictual Co-parenting environment. With the correct assistance, parents are guided to become cooperative as soon as possible; constant conflict is very negative and damaging to your children.
Parallel Parenting is the alternative to co-parenting. Parallel parenting is an arrangement in which divorced parents are able to co-parent by means of disengaging from each other, and having limited direct contact, in situations where they have demonstrated that they are unable to communicate with each other in a respectful manner. A Parenting Plan assists greatly to create a solid routine while limiting your childrens' exposure to constant conflict.
Divorce and separation are never easy. Luckily for adults we have formed coping skills. Unfortunately for children, most have yet to begin developing these skills and suffer from the loss, pain, and confusion of the separation. Why make it any tougher on them?Our staff can assist you in managing the best path. We understand the complex situations of dealing with a parent who is unwilling or unable to co-parent and have researched the best solutions.